I thought I would share here what I shared with one side of my family – we have a “group chat” on Facebook so I posted it to all of them at once.
“Ok so I’m guessing the cat is out of the bag for most of you, yes, like [my ex], I’ve been diagnosed with Aspergers which is technically now known as Autism. So, I am Autistic! What it means is that I process things differently to non-Autistic people (AKA neurotypical/allistic people), my brain is literally wired differently and it has been since birth. Intellectually I’m gifted, emotionally I’m delayed, so now I know for a smart person why I do dumb things and struggle with certain “easy” things like instinctively knowing left from right. My assessment psychologist suggested that I may have Dyscalculia (basically dyslexia in maths) and Alexithymia (basically trouble recognising/labelling emotions). It’s easy for me to understand as I have been reading obsessively about it for the past two months and it all “fit”, so this is just confirmation and validation of what I basically knew. I’m still me, just a more self-aware and self-knowledgable version, and what a relief that is! Just thought I’d share, happy to answer questions especially if they quell the stereotypes/stigma that sometimes follows an “Autism” diagnosis. 😃 love you all ❤️❤️”
I had heard my diagnosis was discussed at a family get together on the weekend which I didn’t attend, which is fine, but I wanted to have my say. From what I heard was said the general consensus was “wouldn’t have picked that” and “I don’t get it”. The couple of replies to my message just confirmed their love for me. My concern now is that I will be “treated differently” instead of just “feeling different” – BUT I am loaded with information, I am not ashamed or embarrassed, and whilst there is a possibility this concern *might* materialise I plan to call it out and educate. The ironic part is the amount of them I can see traits in! But, I’ve decided I will keep that to myself, because for whatever reason some people just don’t want to know. I guess it’s generational ignorance in my familys’ case. But it’s not their fault as such, as there would have been no reason for them to look in to it, and Autistic “stereotypes” they wouldn’t relate themselves to. Oh well! Onwards and upwards! 😃❤️